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Anti-Aging Line™

Makeup Artist labelIf you look up “mature eyes” on any internet search engine, you will find a pitch for skincare products and surgery.  This perpetuates the idea that only young eyes (the kind that are airbrushed beyond reason) are beautiful.  I am out to change that perception!  When I meet with my clients face-to-face, I teach them about what I call the Anti-Aging Line™.

When I teach them about the Anti-Aging Line™, I find women refer their friends to me like crazy; because once you understand this, you really can improve your makeup application.  I have been collecting pictures of my willing clients so you can see this on other eye shapes— that way you can find the Anti-Aging Line™ on yourself.

Find line between the corner of your nose, eye and where your brows should end.

Here is my mug:

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Here is a close up.

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Notice how I keep my makeup within the purple line?  Each part of my makeup pulls the viewer up to where I want them to look.  I don’t accentuate the downward angle of my eyes, because that points out the wrinkles.  If I were to draw my makeup on my lid like we typically are taught, I would be accentuating the wrinkle, or the hinge that is there.  When we are young, our eyes are angled up and we can do fun and funky makeup applications—but as the eyes come down, that doesn’t work.  I’ve found that if you keep your makeup within the line, you are fine!

If you would like individual help with this, I can meet with you one-on-one in person or through Skype!  You can contact me by emailing me at glamourconnection@yahoo.com or calling me toll free at (801) 455-7364.  I’ll have a video up soon showing you more about the Anti-Aging Line™.

Anti Aging Line

Jamberry in Orlando

speaker labelWhen I first started speaking I was told I had to pick between being a makeup artist/beauty expert and being a speaker.  I was told I couldn’t do both; but as I see it, they go together!

We see ourselves in a certain light and how we see ourselves affects our thinking.  We need to feel good to “think” good.  If we are in pain— physical or emotional, it is harder to see the tender moments for what they are.  Instead, we are just gritting our teeth trying, to get through it.

IMG_1160This month, I spoke for Jamberry Nails in Orlando, Florida.   I was the keynote speaker and was able to share basic image concepts in the two hour program.  I spoke about what makes you beautiful, how have your clothes flatter your curves and entertained them with how to wear a scarf.  I say entertain because I literally tucked the scarfs into my clothes so that has I pulled them out— it was like magic… well kinda… because I don’t have the skills of a magician, but it was a fun surprise!  After I taught them how to use their scarves in versatile ways, each of the Executive Elites (that’s Jamberry’s top rock stars) were given a scarf along with other cool swag like my BOOK!   scarf tricks

Scarfs are a great way to bring the eye up to your face.  The extra fabric, added right at your chest area gives your figure more curve.  Here’s a sneaky beauty tip— the eye doesn’t care the size of the hourglass, just as long as it sees an hourglass shape.   Go on Pinterest and search for scarf tying ideas and play with what feels comfortable.  For me, I found stuffing them down my pants and hiding them in my blazer to NOT be the most flattering look.

Scarf style

I had so much fun working with Jamberry Nails.  They have these nail stickers they call “wraps”.  You heat them up and they stay on your fingers or toes with no chipping for weeks!  They have hundreds of patterns and I have become addicted.  I used the product before and in my professional opinion there is nothing better for your toes.  Seriously, they take just minutes to but on , no smelly application.  On my toes, they stay for at least 4 weeks and look great the whole time.  Here’s the bonus: right after you put them on you can climb into bed– no time waiting to dry.  I love beauty that is simple—that is what I have been doing for the last 15 plus years full time—making beauty simple through my makeup classes, image workshops and speaking.

Mature Eyes

Makeup Artist label

In 1989 big eye-shadow and big hair ruled.  I was 16-years-old and was bold with my makeup too—I wore brown eye-shadow hesitatingly applied.  Self-criticism held me back from enjoying those over the top eye-shadow styles of my youth.  In my book I talk about how I was able to find my way out of the cycle of not appreciating what I had.  Now, 25 years later, gravity has become an issue as I feel my wisdom growing, and I can totally appreciate what I have—beautiful, mature eyes.

If you only look at beauty magazines and Pinterest for your makeup application tips you may have laughed out loud as I cheer for my mature eyes—we could get really frustrated with our eyes because they are not the same as they were in 1989, 1979 or 1969.  Time happens and our eyes shift.  That shifting isn’t bad.  I believe that ageing is beautiful and I want to help you see it!

As an early makeup artist most of my work came from brides.  Those girls had the young eyes you find in all the magazines.  You can really do anything you want with eyes like that—just look at the crazy makeup tips you find.  I want the tips I share to help you feel more comfortable and see yourself as the beauty you are.  I believe we are all beautiful; we have just been trained to think that only perfection is beautiful.

I have a ton of makeup tips for mature eyes—but here is my concern:  if I just start posting these awesome tips you may not see what I am talking about.  You need to be retrained first.  You are beautiful.  You are perfectly normal.  What is being sold to you in magazines as “the standard” is not normal. 

Look at this:  

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In this example, notice what you don’t see.  There are no wrinkles, no hinge on the outside of the eye.  We get this hinge wrinkle from the movement of the eye.

Now look at these:

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 These ladies must have been moving their eyes too much.  With all these wrinkles, they must have had years of too much squinting in the sun.  The problem is… these are nine year old girls!  But THIS is the standard we are held to.

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She is fabulously airbrushed to a standard of perfection that we all fail to meet.  Because it is not real.

 

Here is a picture of me (please notice what a good hair day I am having).

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I look stinkin’ hot and I am real.  You can tell this picture hasn’t been edited because look at this picture and notice what you see.

Hotness Eye

It’s like I have wrinkles—shocking!!  I look great for 41 as I use SeneGence skincare.  Look at this without makeup on and see the real “normal”.

The wrinkles, the downward pull of the eye.  Notice how you don’t see it on the first picture?  It is because I used my makeup as a tool to guide the beholder to where I want you to look.  (In my next makeup artist blog I am going to start teaching you those tricks.)

 

As you are out there looking at Pinterest, see if they are real tips on real faces or if the unreal standard of beauty will make you think that nine-year-old eyes are old because they are not airbrushed.

The Words our Mirrors Say- a deeper look into the book

While writing my book, many people, places and events inspired me.  This blog is to help look deeper into the inspiration behind some of the moments in my book, How to Embrace Your Inner Hotness.

The quote above was inspired by a woman I met at one of my Hotness Workshops.  She was a mother of four children that were close in age.  As so many of us do in that process, she lost a tinge of sanity, a lot of peace and the figure she had before she became a mother.  At the workshop, she shared with the group a powerful story of how she learned about positive self-talk.

One day, after she got out of the shower, she looked in the mirror and felt that what she saw was not flattering.  She was struck by the changes in her body.  She said, “I grabbed by tummy, disgusted with myself that I was this fat!  How could I let this happen?!  I started to call myself names… and then I felt something stop me.  Hadn’t this body birthed four healthy babies?  That was a gift.  I felt an impression that I was never to be so unkind to myself again.  I felt that it was from God.”

After she told her story, the room was quiet.  We all knew we were guilty of being unkind to ourselves and even bullying ourselves at times.  Her experience spoke that truth into our hearts, in a clearer way than I could ever express.  The truth was that God doesn’t want us to feel poopy about ourselves.  Don’t be mean to that amazing body you have!  It was made ON purpose for a purpose.

Choose to be nice to you.  Honor yourself with your thoughts.  Feed your mirror kind things.

If you want help with this, my book is available by clicking here.

Jamberry Nails

The company Jamberry nails has a very cool concept.  Instead of waiting for what feels like eternity (at least to me) for your nails to dry, you can use these nail wraps.  They’re made from vinyl and once you know what you’re doing, it’s really easy to apply.  Even better- the wraps last for weeks.completed nails

You all know I do makeup, all day long.  Because of that, I love long-lasting, easy beauty.  I love looking great without the fuss.  I’ve found Jamberry fits in perfectly with that mentality.  They’re gorgeous and I particularly like them on my toes.

So, when Jamberry called me to speak for them, I was not very dignified on the phone.  I was so excited to have the opportunity to speak for a company that does something so cool.

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Jamberry organized an amazing show for their executive level leaders, and I brought the Hotness™ to share.  While I know you’re dying to hear the details, I can’t tell you all about it because they asked me to participate in the same show again.  I’ll be traveling with them to Orlando, Florida in January.  Jamberry treated me very well and even gave me the swag bag they gave their hardest working leaders.  All of the attendees received a copy of my book at the show.

Recently, I also spoke at “The Women Empowered Conference” put on by the Ogden/Weber Chamber.  They gave each attendee my book in the swag bag.  It’s such a thrill to be able to speak and have the attendees be able to learn more about How to Embrace their Inner Hotness!

Are you a Rule Breaker?

I have always had a respect for authority, never really been rebellious. Rules don’t bother me unless they are stupid rules, then I want to push back against the rules. Don’t get me started on politics. You have been warned. When the glamour magazines come out and “let us know the new color of the season.. it’s so magical how they all get the same colors from magazine to magazine, the stores are in line with this too—did they take a survey on the street of thousands of woman? Was it off of what a famous person decided? Color is so powerful that when we think of neon we think of the 80’s or now… (these colors are back in trend –  regurgitation of the 80’s.) Yes, I am not a fan of florescent neon unless you are a kid, but in a business meeting.. ack!

So how are the “it” colors decided upon? Who are the they that we all follow from fashion, home décor and makeup? “They” are Pantone. Mystery revealed? No, who are they? A secret society from the dark ages bent on gaining power .. oh sorry different group.. heehhee. Have you ever tried to describe a color over the phone? I have its like describing the taste of salt! No matter how many adjectives you use you know the other person is not seeing what you are! Specific colors are in your mind are associated with memories. Whenever I think of a brown horse I can see the hide color of the horse at Grandpa Chuck’s. Not all brown horses are that exact color but to me—when I say ‘brown horse’ I think of that exact shade. Due to working with a specific product line when you say Currant I immediately see SeneGence Currant Lipcolor in my mind but other companies have named their cosmetics Currant and they are different shades.

If I were painting my house and I need to order more paint, what do I do to get the same shade? Well, in stepped Pantone. In the 1950’s they came up with a color matching system, each color was given a number. This filled the need of graphic designers to say to each other we want 5,000 copies of this Pantone red 345 or whatever color they wanted to match. Brilliant really. Now over the phone the pros could share the exact color they wanted based on Pantone’s color matching system. How Pantone became the color deciding gurus of the fashion world, I don’t know. I bet it’s in a meeting, “Okay, so humm we gotta do this season thing again.. so what have we not used recently?” So every Spring and Fall Pantone tells us what is cool and we change out our couch cushions, go on the prowl and buy that new trendy outfit

.Pantone Fall 2013

So here is my problem—every new season I see women, especially girls wearing the “it” color and it looks horrid. Not because she is not lovely and amazing because I believe all women are, but because that color doesn’t look good on her!! So if the colors coming out are good for you this is great, this falls colors just happen to be for those with yellow undertones to your skin. If you are a pinky toned skin not so good, the it colors will be wearing you not you wearing them.

What colors you wear whether they are the “hot” color of the season or not, should look “Hot” on you! I happen to look sensational in the jewel tones of this season, and I’m excited to get more brown shirts because when brown is not hot the selection of brown can be limited. Three years ago I had to have a royal Blue suit.. impossible to find! I had to have one custom made. Now its going to be easy.. the choices will runneth over because Pantone has decided that Mykonos Blue, which is a royal blue enough for me, is in this season! I will be able to find shirts that go with my suit! And my brown pants which the brown tops are starting to fade, I get to brush off the dust we are going shopping. And ohh, the Acai Purple is amazingly great color on me and other women with yellow undertones to their skin.. last seasons colors.. not so much. I walked in to stores and walked out because those colors didn’t look good on me.

So shop to look hot, shop to look fabulous shop for the right colors if they are “in” or not—Do you want to look Trendy or Hot?

More information on the Pantone colors can be found here: http://www.pantone.com/pages/fcr.aspx?pg=21057&ca=4

By the way the spring, summer, fall winter was designed for white women. Forcing all women of color in the “winter category”— that will be another great post soon!

The Three P’s of Putting Your Wardrobe Together Perfectly

I was just on TV… it was a lot of fun! Nineveh, from Fox 13, was great at putting me at ease in front of the camera, she is very easy to talk too. Check out the video here:

The problem was it was too fast!! I didn’t get to share everything I wanted to say and ohhh do I have a lot to say on the subject!!! Proper fit is one of those things that I love to teach. It doesn’t matter how high quality your clothes are, how perfect the color is or how trendy they are IF THEY DON’T FIT RIGHT!

Proper fit of your clothes will make them AND you look better!! A great beginning guideline, if it is too tight, you can’t move naturally!

People say to dress for success; I say to dress for fit! Dress for the fit of your amazing beautiful body and to fit your life. And with a fit that you can move and feel comfortable… of course comfort in clothing is not to be rational for living in yoga pants.

So, what are the Three P’s of putting your Wardrobe together Perfectly?

1) Plan:

You walk into the store and the clerk asks you “May I help you”. You had been trying desperately to avoid eye contact! Now it’s awkward, what do you say to not be rude but not encourage them to try to assist you as you shop? It’s pretend you accidentally ended up in the store, “saying no I’m just looking”  acting half interested and head back to the clearance racks.
You then may load up with some items try them on and buy something you talked yourself into. When you get home you introduce your new purchase to the rest of your clothes and find that they don’t HANG out together!! It may or may not go with your other clothes and you’ll never wear it. The cycle of victim shopping starts again.

Ladies you gotta have a plan!!! Know what do you need and or want BEFORE you go to the store! You don’t have to go to the store like Rain Man repeating brown skirt, need brown skirt, brown.. need… but understand what makes you look and feel your best.

You know that clerk you have been trying to avoid… they actually know what is in their store, you CAN and SHOULD ask them!! It part of the Power shopping notebook I will teach you in another post!

So ask yourself before you leave to shop what you want. Tell your girlfriends what you are in search of, they will help you in your quest!  Now you have the clerk and your friends helping you look.

*Hint from the power shopping notebook– gather pics before you go so you can not only describe what you are looking for but can show the picture to the clerk. And we make fun of men for not asking for directions!!

2) Purpose:

Though you may feel like a “human Kleenex” as my friend Jaime Smith said (mother of 5 young kids who always looks good) you can still dress cute. Jamie would argue this, but we seldom see our own beauty like we see it in others. We are so hard on ourselves.  (There Jaime I publicly called you out! You a hot mama!)  Moms dress differently than the bank manager, than the makeup artist or the CEO or the mechanic.  Yes, there are chic mechanics.  So what does your purpose for clothes look like? This ties back into your plan. If you pair dry cleaning with yoga pants this is not hottness.  T-shirts with business suits makes the whole outfit look thrown together. DO the items of clothing do the same work? Do they send the same message? My kids get it: they call my not work outfits “mom clothes”.  They know at a glance when I am working.  Jeans are not a part of my “work” (which is often my favorite “firewalker” shirt comfy for use and reminds me of when I literally walked on fire! I will tell you all the story in another post). My “mom” outfit doesn’t say to a lady ‘trust me to teach you about beauty’.  It says let’s sit on the couch and talk as our kids tear apart my house. Both activities that I love to do.  But the clothes I wear not only tell my kids which hat I am wearing but  they tell the client  that I cared enough to get ready to serve her. To my friend it says I am sitting on the couch totally present in the chic bonding.  How funny would I look if I was at the playground in dry-cleaning only pants, ironed button down shirt and heels? How much trust would I inspire to a client in a t-shirt and jeans? Or to an audience?!  Have you ever seen a speaker show up wrinkled, lazy looking? If that’s the look you want that is fine but I want my audience either on the stage or in life to see that I care, I’m ready!  Don’t you want the same from those around you? Don’t let your clothes block people from taking you seriously in your role, whatever that may be.

Personality:
This is perhaps the most important part.

I love old castles, I loved the opportunity to visit them, and see them in pictures. The architecture of the castle would be built with the idea of intimidation, grandeur or protection. Think of the castle with the high thick walls, mote and little window slits– built to protect what is inside.
When we dress in baggy clothes, not showing any of our shape we are not showing us. When we wear dirty, torn clothes we are telling people we don’t care. Then we are hurt and angry when they don’t care for us. It doesn’t take money to look clean and put together. When I was putting my husband through Law school we had the miracle of welcoming our first child. My waistline grew out of my clothes and I had no money, nada, to buy me clothes that fit my new beautiful shape. What I made went to support silly things like $1300 a month in New England rent, food, insurance and preparing for baby. I shopped second hand following my Power Notebook Plan and looked good enough to continue my work teaching at a beauty school, doing the makeup for a wedding or even more ironic teaching busy Boston professionals the art of dress in an outfit that I bought for 25 cents at a garage sale! Clothes are an invitation to others to see us, to get to know us.

Do you dress to intimidate? The absence of clothes is an invitation to see us an object not a brain. Unless you are a football player, a jouster or in the military or other profession your clothes do not need to have a protective role! Dressing nice and showing respect for you doesn’t mean making others feel less for themselves. This topic could be its own blog post! Dress to represent what you do but not to yield power. I like to dress nice to honor my purpose and to be approachable to welcome people to get to know my personality, to get to know me. I dress in my own style, with some trends but I have my own way that I feel most comfortable for what my life purpose is. I dress the way I do because I like how I look, I invite you to ask yourself of the clothes you have how many of them are a reflection of you? Do you feel like you when you wear them? Or do you feel like you are trying to copy someone else? Are you being your best you or what you perceive another’s best to be? Dress to suit your personality not someone else’s. Just make sure that it fits you right!!!! My mom dresses in prairie skirts which are really a copy of Navajo style. She loves them, she has them in every color that looks good on her. It’s her style, matching her personality and her interests. Honor you enough to dress like you. I have a friend who always dresses in Vintage clothes. I love to see what she will wear next.  I just happen to know her size so when I am out and see something that is totally her I can pick up and send it to her helping her in her clothing quest!

Dress in the grandeur of what makes you beautiful. Showcase the treasures of your beautiful strength. Your clothes should be a representation of your personality. They shouldn’t be placing walls between others to understand who you are and remember the absence of clothes is an invitation to see us an object not a brain.

Clearly I couldn’t say all of this on TV! But I am excited to share my content and skills with an audience in other segments with Channel 13!

Thanks again for having me Fox 13!

Face Shape – Accessories

In last month’s post Face Shape we introduced the different types of face shape and how to figure out which you had. As I was browsing through Self magazine April edition in a feature about tips for your hair, included was some hair accessories and how to wear them. How perfect that they broke it down by face shape. Unfortunately I couldn’t find an online version of the feature but here it is broken down.

For a Long Face – styling goal: to create width in your face. Suggested accessory: a skinny headband. (wear it in the center of your head)

For a Heart shaped face – styling goal: to balance out a more prominent chin. Suggested accessory: a feminine floral bobby pin or barrette. (wear it just above and behind your ear)

For an Oval face – styling goal: Lucky, this shape goes with any style. Suggested accessory: a festive comb or clip. (wear it with your hair pulled back and as if it’s coming our of your hair)

For a round face – styling goal: create the illusion of length by adding more volume to your crown. Suggested accessory: a wide, teeth-free headband (wear it by sliding headband from your hairline to the center of your head; hair can be up or down)

So, go out and have some fun with hair accessories. The best part is, this accessory can be pretty cheap so it’s an easy way to update your look as well. Check out the full scoop in this month’s Self Magazine on page 51.

Face Shape

Face shape can determine a lot about what will or won’t work for an individual. From hairstyle to the cut of a shirt, your face shape can guide you in the right direction. The most concise “how to determine face shape” I found came from http://www.visual-makeover.com/face.htm. So here’s the gist of it:

  • Oval Face – Length equal to one and a half times width.
  • Round Face – Your face is as wide as it is long. This may vary a little but generally the measurement is close.
  • Oblong – Longer than it is wide.
  • Square – your face is about as wide as it is long.
  • Heart – Narrow at jaw line, wide at cheekbones/and or forehead.
  • Diamond – Widest at cheekbones, narrow forehead and jaw line of approximately equal widths.

The chart below seemed a good guide for determining your face-shape as well.

If this all seems a little daunting, Leta will do it for you when you meet with her for a consultation. Not only will she relay your face shape, but she will also give you individualized information on how to put your look together to accentuate the most attractive features of your face – including types of clothing that would best suite you.

Eating Your Way to Better Skin

We all know the old saying “you are what you eat.” So the same goes for wanting healthy skin. Put healthy foods in and, along with a dialed skin care regime, you will have healthy looking, fantastic skin. The article “Foods For Healthy Skin” was very thorough, yet concise on what the best choices are to achieve healthy skin through what you eat.

For your convenience I have broken out the gist of what types foods are suggested. I’m including some tips and my favorites too.

Low-fat dairy products

a low fat spreadable swiss cheese – The Laughing Cow has great cheese that comes in many different flavors.

low fat yogurt – vanilla Wallabey Yogurt is so creamy and delicious it almost feels like a treat

Milk – we are often told skim, but really the caloric difference for 1% is not so much and it tastes a lot less like milk flavored water. I like to add some chocolate flavored, 100% whey protein to an 8oz. glass in the morning.

Blackberries, blueberries, strawberries and plums

When out of season, go for the frozen variety. Since they are frozen at the peak of  freshness frozen berries are optimal in nutrients.

Salmon, walnuts, canola oil, flax seed

Flax seeds can be added to anything from spaghetti sauce to oatmeal.

If you don’t like the taste of walnuts, grind some up and add them to almost anything without really tasting them.

Healthy oils (in moderation)

“cold pressed, expeller processed, or extra virgin are the ones to look for.”

Whole wheat breads, muffins and cereals; turkey, tuna and brazil nuts

Granny’s Delight 100% whole wheat – found at Harmon’s, this bread packs in 6g fiber, 3g protein and only 80 calories per slice. It is made in Kaysville, UT as well – so for the Utahns reading this – it is local! When purchasing whole        wheat bread make sure that that is the first ingredient and look for  5+ grams of fiber per slice.

Green Tea

Any suggestions on brands would be appreciated – I have only tried Stash.

Water

At least half of your body weight in ounces. So if you weigh 130 lbs, you should drink 65oz. The article points out the exact amount you should drink varies, I got this amount from a chiropractor who specializes in wellness.

Here are some examples of how to combine more than two of the above categories:

  • Yogurt with blueberries and a tablespoon of walnuts, and maybe even a tablespoon of flax seeds.
  • Whole wheat bread with spreadable low-fat swiss cheese and tuna
  • Salmon cooked in extra-virgin olive oil
  • Sliced strawberries and blackberries with half a whole wheat muffin

So those are just a few examples, the combinations can be as creative as you are.