I was just on TV… it was a lot of fun! Nineveh, from Fox 13, was great at putting me at ease in front of the camera, she is very easy to talk too. Check out the video here:
The problem was it was too fast!! I didn’t get to share everything I wanted to say and ohhh do I have a lot to say on the subject!!! Proper fit is one of those things that I love to teach. It doesn’t matter how high quality your clothes are, how perfect the color is or how trendy they are IF THEY DON’T FIT RIGHT!
Proper fit of your clothes will make them AND you look better!! A great beginning guideline, if it is too tight, you can’t move naturally!
People say to dress for success; I say to dress for fit! Dress for the fit of your amazing beautiful body and to fit your life. And with a fit that you can move and feel comfortable… of course comfort in clothing is not to be rational for living in yoga pants.
So, what are the Three P’s of putting your Wardrobe together Perfectly?
You walk into the store and the clerk asks you “May I help you”. You had been trying desperately to avoid eye contact! Now it’s awkward, what do you say to not be rude but not encourage them to try to assist you as you shop? It’s pretend you accidentally ended up in the store, “saying no I’m just looking” acting half interested and head back to the clearance racks.
You then may load up with some items try them on and buy something you talked yourself into. When you get home you introduce your new purchase to the rest of your clothes and find that they don’t HANG out together!! It may or may not go with your other clothes and you’ll never wear it. The cycle of victim shopping starts again.
Ladies you gotta have a plan!!! Know what do you need and or want BEFORE you go to the store! You don’t have to go to the store like Rain Man repeating brown skirt, need brown skirt, brown.. need… but understand what makes you look and feel your best.
You know that clerk you have been trying to avoid… they actually know what is in their store, you CAN and SHOULD ask them!! It part of the Power shopping notebook I will teach you in another post!
So ask yourself before you leave to shop what you want. Tell your girlfriends what you are in search of, they will help you in your quest! Now you have the clerk and your friends helping you look.
*Hint from the power shopping notebook– gather pics before you go so you can not only describe what you are looking for but can show the picture to the clerk. And we make fun of men for not asking for directions!!
Though you may feel like a “human Kleenex” as my friend Jaime Smith said (mother of 5 young kids who always looks good) you can still dress cute. Jamie would argue this, but we seldom see our own beauty like we see it in others. We are so hard on ourselves. (There Jaime I publicly called you out! You a hot mama!) Moms dress differently than the bank manager, than the makeup artist or the CEO or the mechanic. Yes, there are chic mechanics. So what does your purpose for clothes look like? This ties back into your plan. If you pair dry cleaning with yoga pants this is not hottness. T-shirts with business suits makes the whole outfit look thrown together. DO the items of clothing do the same work? Do they send the same message? My kids get it: they call my not work outfits “mom clothes”. They know at a glance when I am working. Jeans are not a part of my “work” (which is often my favorite “firewalker” shirt comfy for use and reminds me of when I literally walked on fire! I will tell you all the story in another post). My “mom” outfit doesn’t say to a lady ‘trust me to teach you about beauty’. It says let’s sit on the couch and talk as our kids tear apart my house. Both activities that I love to do. But the clothes I wear not only tell my kids which hat I am wearing but they tell the client that I cared enough to get ready to serve her. To my friend it says I am sitting on the couch totally present in the chic bonding. How funny would I look if I was at the playground in dry-cleaning only pants, ironed button down shirt and heels? How much trust would I inspire to a client in a t-shirt and jeans? Or to an audience?! Have you ever seen a speaker show up wrinkled, lazy looking? If that’s the look you want that is fine but I want my audience either on the stage or in life to see that I care, I’m ready! Don’t you want the same from those around you? Don’t let your clothes block people from taking you seriously in your role, whatever that may be.
This is perhaps the most important part.
I love old castles, I loved the opportunity to visit them, and see them in pictures. The architecture of the castle would be built with the idea of intimidation, grandeur or protection. Think of the castle with the high thick walls, mote and little window slits– built to protect what is inside.
When we dress in baggy clothes, not showing any of our shape we are not showing us. When we wear dirty, torn clothes we are telling people we don’t care. Then we are hurt and angry when they don’t care for us. It doesn’t take money to look clean and put together. When I was putting my husband through Law school we had the miracle of welcoming our first child. My waistline grew out of my clothes and I had no money, nada, to buy me clothes that fit my new beautiful shape. What I made went to support silly things like $1300 a month in New England rent, food, insurance and preparing for baby. I shopped second hand following my Power Notebook Plan and looked good enough to continue my work teaching at a beauty school, doing the makeup for a wedding or even more ironic teaching busy Boston professionals the art of dress in an outfit that I bought for 25 cents at a garage sale! Clothes are an invitation to others to see us, to get to know us.
Do you dress to intimidate? The absence of clothes is an invitation to see us an object not a brain. Unless you are a football player, a jouster or in the military or other profession your clothes do not need to have a protective role! Dressing nice and showing respect for you doesn’t mean making others feel less for themselves. This topic could be its own blog post! Dress to represent what you do but not to yield power. I like to dress nice to honor my purpose and to be approachable to welcome people to get to know my personality, to get to know me. I dress in my own style, with some trends but I have my own way that I feel most comfortable for what my life purpose is. I dress the way I do because I like how I look, I invite you to ask yourself of the clothes you have how many of them are a reflection of you? Do you feel like you when you wear them? Or do you feel like you are trying to copy someone else? Are you being your best you or what you perceive another’s best to be? Dress to suit your personality not someone else’s. Just make sure that it fits you right!!!! My mom dresses in prairie skirts which are really a copy of Navajo style. She loves them, she has them in every color that looks good on her. It’s her style, matching her personality and her interests. Honor you enough to dress like you. I have a friend who always dresses in Vintage clothes. I love to see what she will wear next. I just happen to know her size so when I am out and see something that is totally her I can pick up and send it to her helping her in her clothing quest!
Dress in the grandeur of what makes you beautiful. Showcase the treasures of your beautiful strength. Your clothes should be a representation of your personality. They shouldn’t be placing walls between others to understand who you are and remember the absence of clothes is an invitation to see us an object not a brain.
Clearly I couldn’t say all of this on TV! But I am excited to share my content and skills with an audience in other segments with Channel 13!
Thanks again for having me Fox 13!