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Jamberry in Orlando

speaker labelWhen I first started speaking I was told I had to pick between being a makeup artist/beauty expert and being a speaker.  I was told I couldn’t do both; but as I see it, they go together!

We see ourselves in a certain light and how we see ourselves affects our thinking.  We need to feel good to “think” good.  If we are in pain— physical or emotional, it is harder to see the tender moments for what they are.  Instead, we are just gritting our teeth trying, to get through it.

IMG_1160This month, I spoke for Jamberry Nails in Orlando, Florida.   I was the keynote speaker and was able to share basic image concepts in the two hour program.  I spoke about what makes you beautiful, how have your clothes flatter your curves and entertained them with how to wear a scarf.  I say entertain because I literally tucked the scarfs into my clothes so that has I pulled them out— it was like magic… well kinda… because I don’t have the skills of a magician, but it was a fun surprise!  After I taught them how to use their scarves in versatile ways, each of the Executive Elites (that’s Jamberry’s top rock stars) were given a scarf along with other cool swag like my BOOK!   scarf tricks

Scarfs are a great way to bring the eye up to your face.  The extra fabric, added right at your chest area gives your figure more curve.  Here’s a sneaky beauty tip— the eye doesn’t care the size of the hourglass, just as long as it sees an hourglass shape.   Go on Pinterest and search for scarf tying ideas and play with what feels comfortable.  For me, I found stuffing them down my pants and hiding them in my blazer to NOT be the most flattering look.

Scarf style

I had so much fun working with Jamberry Nails.  They have these nail stickers they call “wraps”.  You heat them up and they stay on your fingers or toes with no chipping for weeks!  They have hundreds of patterns and I have become addicted.  I used the product before and in my professional opinion there is nothing better for your toes.  Seriously, they take just minutes to but on , no smelly application.  On my toes, they stay for at least 4 weeks and look great the whole time.  Here’s the bonus: right after you put them on you can climb into bed– no time waiting to dry.  I love beauty that is simple—that is what I have been doing for the last 15 plus years full time—making beauty simple through my makeup classes, image workshops and speaking.

The Three P’s of Putting Your Wardrobe Together Perfectly

I was just on TV… it was a lot of fun! Nineveh, from Fox 13, was great at putting me at ease in front of the camera, she is very easy to talk too. Check out the video here:

The problem was it was too fast!! I didn’t get to share everything I wanted to say and ohhh do I have a lot to say on the subject!!! Proper fit is one of those things that I love to teach. It doesn’t matter how high quality your clothes are, how perfect the color is or how trendy they are IF THEY DON’T FIT RIGHT!

Proper fit of your clothes will make them AND you look better!! A great beginning guideline, if it is too tight, you can’t move naturally!

People say to dress for success; I say to dress for fit! Dress for the fit of your amazing beautiful body and to fit your life. And with a fit that you can move and feel comfortable… of course comfort in clothing is not to be rational for living in yoga pants.

So, what are the Three P’s of putting your Wardrobe together Perfectly?

1) Plan:

You walk into the store and the clerk asks you “May I help you”. You had been trying desperately to avoid eye contact! Now it’s awkward, what do you say to not be rude but not encourage them to try to assist you as you shop? It’s pretend you accidentally ended up in the store, “saying no I’m just looking”  acting half interested and head back to the clearance racks.
You then may load up with some items try them on and buy something you talked yourself into. When you get home you introduce your new purchase to the rest of your clothes and find that they don’t HANG out together!! It may or may not go with your other clothes and you’ll never wear it. The cycle of victim shopping starts again.

Ladies you gotta have a plan!!! Know what do you need and or want BEFORE you go to the store! You don’t have to go to the store like Rain Man repeating brown skirt, need brown skirt, brown.. need… but understand what makes you look and feel your best.

You know that clerk you have been trying to avoid… they actually know what is in their store, you CAN and SHOULD ask them!! It part of the Power shopping notebook I will teach you in another post!

So ask yourself before you leave to shop what you want. Tell your girlfriends what you are in search of, they will help you in your quest!  Now you have the clerk and your friends helping you look.

*Hint from the power shopping notebook– gather pics before you go so you can not only describe what you are looking for but can show the picture to the clerk. And we make fun of men for not asking for directions!!

2) Purpose:

Though you may feel like a “human Kleenex” as my friend Jaime Smith said (mother of 5 young kids who always looks good) you can still dress cute. Jamie would argue this, but we seldom see our own beauty like we see it in others. We are so hard on ourselves.  (There Jaime I publicly called you out! You a hot mama!)  Moms dress differently than the bank manager, than the makeup artist or the CEO or the mechanic.  Yes, there are chic mechanics.  So what does your purpose for clothes look like? This ties back into your plan. If you pair dry cleaning with yoga pants this is not hottness.  T-shirts with business suits makes the whole outfit look thrown together. DO the items of clothing do the same work? Do they send the same message? My kids get it: they call my not work outfits “mom clothes”.  They know at a glance when I am working.  Jeans are not a part of my “work” (which is often my favorite “firewalker” shirt comfy for use and reminds me of when I literally walked on fire! I will tell you all the story in another post). My “mom” outfit doesn’t say to a lady ‘trust me to teach you about beauty’.  It says let’s sit on the couch and talk as our kids tear apart my house. Both activities that I love to do.  But the clothes I wear not only tell my kids which hat I am wearing but  they tell the client  that I cared enough to get ready to serve her. To my friend it says I am sitting on the couch totally present in the chic bonding.  How funny would I look if I was at the playground in dry-cleaning only pants, ironed button down shirt and heels? How much trust would I inspire to a client in a t-shirt and jeans? Or to an audience?!  Have you ever seen a speaker show up wrinkled, lazy looking? If that’s the look you want that is fine but I want my audience either on the stage or in life to see that I care, I’m ready!  Don’t you want the same from those around you? Don’t let your clothes block people from taking you seriously in your role, whatever that may be.

Personality:
This is perhaps the most important part.

I love old castles, I loved the opportunity to visit them, and see them in pictures. The architecture of the castle would be built with the idea of intimidation, grandeur or protection. Think of the castle with the high thick walls, mote and little window slits– built to protect what is inside.
When we dress in baggy clothes, not showing any of our shape we are not showing us. When we wear dirty, torn clothes we are telling people we don’t care. Then we are hurt and angry when they don’t care for us. It doesn’t take money to look clean and put together. When I was putting my husband through Law school we had the miracle of welcoming our first child. My waistline grew out of my clothes and I had no money, nada, to buy me clothes that fit my new beautiful shape. What I made went to support silly things like $1300 a month in New England rent, food, insurance and preparing for baby. I shopped second hand following my Power Notebook Plan and looked good enough to continue my work teaching at a beauty school, doing the makeup for a wedding or even more ironic teaching busy Boston professionals the art of dress in an outfit that I bought for 25 cents at a garage sale! Clothes are an invitation to others to see us, to get to know us.

Do you dress to intimidate? The absence of clothes is an invitation to see us an object not a brain. Unless you are a football player, a jouster or in the military or other profession your clothes do not need to have a protective role! Dressing nice and showing respect for you doesn’t mean making others feel less for themselves. This topic could be its own blog post! Dress to represent what you do but not to yield power. I like to dress nice to honor my purpose and to be approachable to welcome people to get to know my personality, to get to know me. I dress in my own style, with some trends but I have my own way that I feel most comfortable for what my life purpose is. I dress the way I do because I like how I look, I invite you to ask yourself of the clothes you have how many of them are a reflection of you? Do you feel like you when you wear them? Or do you feel like you are trying to copy someone else? Are you being your best you or what you perceive another’s best to be? Dress to suit your personality not someone else’s. Just make sure that it fits you right!!!! My mom dresses in prairie skirts which are really a copy of Navajo style. She loves them, she has them in every color that looks good on her. It’s her style, matching her personality and her interests. Honor you enough to dress like you. I have a friend who always dresses in Vintage clothes. I love to see what she will wear next.  I just happen to know her size so when I am out and see something that is totally her I can pick up and send it to her helping her in her clothing quest!

Dress in the grandeur of what makes you beautiful. Showcase the treasures of your beautiful strength. Your clothes should be a representation of your personality. They shouldn’t be placing walls between others to understand who you are and remember the absence of clothes is an invitation to see us an object not a brain.

Clearly I couldn’t say all of this on TV! But I am excited to share my content and skills with an audience in other segments with Channel 13!

Thanks again for having me Fox 13!

Spring Trends – Clothing

If you are anything like me, it seems to be the same box of clothes coming out of storage at the change of each season. Since we are talking beauty here on the Glamour Connection blog, clothing goes along with it. So I decided to browse the various fashion sites spring trend reports, found i liked Glamour magazine’s break down of “Wearable Trends” because really, who wants trends that are either impractical or just plain obnoxious. So I took my favorite looks/trends from the Glamour slide show and wanted to give a few examples of what could be. Spring often brings florals, pastels and whit – these ideas for spring have a bit of that, but red and gray are also featured. (I am really loving gray lately.) The thing with clothing is that every woman should really wear what is most comfortable for them. Now, I’m not saying your should wear your lounge clothes everyday because that’s what is comfortable for you. If that is your particular favorite, maybe it’s best for you to stick with cotton fabrics and no fuss outfits. It’s also great that spring is still cool enough that throwing on a great jacket over whatever shirt you happen to be wearing can appear to be a put together look – given you are wearing your nicest pair of jeans or slacks. So here 7 of the 15 spring trends:

“Painterly Prints”

A wrap-dress from Target. The wrap-dress does good things for most women. It seems this new spin on florals, where it appears to be a painting not just a loud pattern, can give you the feeling of being a walking piece of art.

“Polka Dots”

Polka dots really seem like a good idea. Executing this good idea is another thing. Trying to browse and find a good example for this trend was a challenge. Accessories, luggage and children’s clothing was mostly what was found. So here is a great belt that can accent another trend (which I actually chose to leave out) – the monotone look.

“Military Coat”

Love this look. It seems like it comes in and out of “fashion” quite often. So maybe you already have a military style jacket in your closet. Spring is the prefect time to clean those closets out anyway. However, if you are shopping, look for one of these jackets.

“Head to Toe Gray”

Gray is wonderful because it is so flexible like black,  but gives you more variety with the various shades available. it’s also very easy to find lots of cuts and fabrics in this set for spring color.

“The Scarlet Jacket”

Personally, I find red a hard color to wear on a regular basis. I have just never felt it was for me. But I can definitely get behind wearing a red jacket. You won’t be overlooked in one of these. (note – the jacket on the left is currently out of stock at zappos.com, But I liked it too much to leave out.)

“Tie-Dye”

Tie-dye has seen it’s glory days as splashes of brightly colored hues adorning a basic cotton t-shirt. Those days are gone but the pattern is staying. This style too has come and gone a few times, but how it’s being used now is fantastic. The option for the accessory will be great if you are a little timid about such a loud pattern.