Love language number 2 is

Quality Time

Giving Quality time to ourselves is maybe the most difficult task we have. With so many responsibilities to our families, jobs, homes, and all the other engagements we take upon ourselves, there is not much time left for us. It is so important to take the time out needed to spend with yourself and doing something just for you. This could even mean spending time with someone you love, even someone that is not your spouse. Girlfriends are so important in our lives – even if there is just one that really makes us feel good about ourself. Quality is different than just being together. When we spend quality time we are engaged in conversation without letting distractions in. A good way for this to happen is to actually leave your house. Take your chosen friend and go to a favorite lunch or coffee spot. Even sitting at a park in nature can be calming and produce a deeper conversation where you are truly able to let go. Dr. Chapman would call this togetherness with quality conversation, but in the book he is relating it to you giving your spouse or significant other that love. I’m suggesting that you do this for you especially if this is how you feel love.

Quality activities is another way we feel love through quality time. Finding an activity that you  love doing just for you and creating the time to do it and you will be loving on yourself. Anything you have interest in is also game here. Although, starting  new hobby or activity can be frustrating, so maybe for the first little bit of giving yourself love through quality time you should just stick with something you know you love. Is it running, scrapbooking, photography, yoga. . . You know more than anyone what you love to do. Allowing yourself the time to do it, without feeling guilty, fills your love bank for yourself. If it has been a while since you’ve spent quality time with yourself, it might be helpful to start with a list of activities you think you would enjoy. When you’ve set the time up, just try one until you find the one you most enjoy and give it some focus. Maybe in the process you will feel more than love, you will gain a better sense of accomplishment. Give yourself time and those you love will benefit as well.